Click this link. It is some very important reading.
“It can be quite a task to get a pleaser to recognize that advocating for themselves in their relationships is necessary. But at the end of the day, we are all responsible for our own feelings and contentment. If we aren’t happy or feel we have unmet needs in our lives or intimate relationships, we must do something about it. Waiting around in a pile of resentment is never the right stance, and the only way to make it right is effective communication. Tell your partner what is going on now with you and what you need.”